This morning I stumbled across some woman's blog entry, Dating an Apple Developer, and cringed as I read it.
I don’t care if you sister is getting married or your grandmother dies. If your man has a project with a quickly approaching deadline forget about him being there.
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The nice thing about most computer boys is that they don’t typically check out other women. The downside of this is that they don’t notice the other women because they are too busy checking out people’s cell phones and iPods. When it comes to boys and their toys your short mini skirt just can’t compare. Trust me - I have learned this the hard way.
Is it just me, or does her boyfriend sound like a real jerk? I hope she's exaggerating.
I may not work for Apple, but I am a developer, and while I do occasionally obsess over a project, there is nothing more important to me than Felicity. If I've got a choice between meeting a deadline and spending quality time with the woman I love, it's a no-brainer. The deadline can go screw itself.
And what's this crap about her boyfriend not finding her sexually attractive because he's too distracted by gadgets? I love me a sexy gadget, but the first thing I noticed about Felicity wasn't her cell phone, and it still isn't. And that's not just because she's using an old Nokia 3390 that I loaned her after she accidentally took her cell phone snorkeling in Hawaii.
Geek stereotypes (and the people who propagate them) really bug me. I'm the biggest geek there is, but I don't fit most of the stereotypes and it's insulting when I get lumped in with people who do. Emily, whoever you are, my advice is to either talk some sense into your boyfriend or find a guy who appreciates you more than his job.
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By her own stereotype, shouldn't the guy have been so hindered by his incredibly overpowering geek awkwardness that he couldn't score the prize that she most certainly is?
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Excellent point.
Break up?
-If she is exaggerating, then she's probably a bitch, and she would be doing both this guy and every other geek a favor if she broke up with him and never dabbled in the geek pool ever again.
-If she isn't exaggerating, then she needs to break up with this guy (I doubt he'll notice, based on the description) and find someone worth dating.
Should have gone to the source...
Should have read the blog entry before posting. Doesn't sound like she's a bitch. He just sounds like a jerk.
Meeting Emily
Ummm....
Hey check out that cell phone!
Stereotypes
Still, an insightful post. It should make anyone think a little -- and not just "developers".
Wow
I don't think people realize that the photos they post on the internet can be viewed by some strangers bitching about anti-geek diatribes. Seriously, I, via intertron.org, then this site, then many posts, then a link in a reply to a post, have seen a picture of some lady with her touching tongues with another random dude.
Hmmm...
Many, many of my friends in college, and some in high school, were computer geeks, and as far as I could tell, each wanted some variation on a geek-girl. Someone who shared at least some of his interests, who would play videogames with him and be absorbed in her computer when he was absorbed in his. I imagined rashly that that was the general rule. However, I discovered via Slashdot that the vast majority of programmers/general Slashdot geeks wanted a woman who would stay home, cook for them, stay out of the way when they were coding, and have sex with them. The order of importance varied. The content didn't much.
Maybe this is the other side of that coin. Maybe there are actually women who want to be fifties housewives and find their excuse by being with programmers like those. Maybe they like being put upon.
And seriously, who DOESN'T want a dual flatscreen display? DUDE!